Breaking one off

Today, after arguing with one of the men who claimed attraction to me, I decided to break off all contact with him. This must be the one most wise things I’ve done in a long time. This man that I was in contact with, had for months, been showering me with praises and showing great attraction to me, making me feel great. However, I don’t exactly have a great deal of attraction to him. I had made it clear to him from beginning that I have a boyfriend, and that I will not leave my boyfriend or anything for him. He understood that, but he was really persistent and sometimes rather pushy. He flirted a lot and tried to romance me into giving in to him. Thank goodness I did not. However, this guy some times can just read girls. Many times I fell for his charm? I told him many things that I shouldn’t…basically I was beginning to get emotionally attached to him. Needing this companionship, loving the time spent together. However, today I just decided to break it off clean. He wanted a symbiotic relationship, whereby I fulfil him physically and he will fulfil me emotionally. I found that totally morally unacceptable…all I wanted was just be friends. Friends who care sincerely and just able to talk at times…but he wanted more. I argued with him for about 2 days why I can’t do it. He forced me to a corner to make the choice…decide to go ahead or go. It wasn’t exactly a hard decision. So instead of lingering on and just letting this conversation go on and on and on again next time, I decided, let’s just move our own ways. This is not worth it. Not mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Not worth the toll it takes on my head and heart. I love my boyfriend, no one else.

Bad girl

My boyfriend thinks the two weeks of infidelity with the other guy, an emotional affair, does not constitute an affair. So men, affairs means getting physical, or does it?

I had been a bad girl. Ever since then, I believe I have had a couple more affairs. For me, affairs are defined as sharing private matters with another man that I don’t want my boyfriend to find out. Obsessing over this other man, thinking of him more than my boyfriend. That constitutes an affair for me. An emotional affair. Why do I do it? I think my boyfriend is meeting my needs fairly already. However, the bad girl in me sometimes seek the excitement outside of the comfort of his arms. I’m finding the praises of strange men sweet to the ears, the attention I get, they get to my head. I know the terrible effects having these affairs will do to my relationship with him. Why do I still do it? Any counselors out there?